Intimidation

September 16, 2012

One morning I was on the bus heading to work and heard a woman talking about another woman that "needs to do for herself and stop hating on her" This inspired me to write a blog about intimidation.

I have 3 degrees in accounting and worked hard to get those degrees.  I didn't get any help from nobody (except a place to eat and sleep thanks to my mom and grandparents).  I was determined to finish school and did whatever was necessary to accomplish that goal.  I'm proud to say that I am accomplished.
My mom finished with a Masters degree and she's planning on going back to get her degree in Human Resources.  All my siblings are in school (high school and college) so they have goals of their own.  The whole point is this: "WE ALL HAVE GOALS"

Barack Obama became president of the United States when he won the 2008 election.

2012, we had many winners in the Olympic Games and for one person, the only thing that was talked about is her hair not being done.  All of this is a sign of intimidation.

I've done through many interviews and every time they see me, they notice that I'm black, I'm educated and I'm a male.  I've gotten rejected many times and that is because I'm educated, I'm black and I'm a male.  They're intimidated by me because I'm not going to be a long term employee in their small, medium or large company.  I have goals, aspirations, dreams, obligations and will power to be a successful educated, black gay male who will have his freedom and never see a jail cell.

Intimidation isn't prejudiced because anybody can hate on the next man for one reason - THEY'RE NOT IN THE PERSON'S SHOES.  It comes from many social-economical factors (ignorance, hostile environment, jealousy, depression, etc.).  The question now is when will one stop being a hater and start doing for themselves? When will that brotha in the baggy jeans standing in the corner just stop being a stereotypical urban dude and make a change?  When will the black female with kids just stop being so dependent on the government and make a change?  When will that white man just stop being so bitter over something that didn't have nothing to do with him or the white female who always drink to ease the pain away?

Instead of hating or being intimidated by the next man/woman, do something to better yourself.  There's a line from a song by Common that says "How can a man be so scared of change?" How come man is so scared of change?  Is it because change is hard (even though it's good)? Is it because it would make them less of a stereotypical and not more as a go-getter?  Would they become less something they're not used to because they refuse to be different?  Would they rather watch the other person do it first and then "dip their feet into the water?"

The better solution would be to just stop asking and start doing.  Nothing's easy but nobody should feel intimidated and become a hater.  Step your game up so you can be on the same level as the next man.  You only hurting yourself by not having the potential to do better for yourself.

My mom called me an intimidator back in July after one of my aunts passed.  I thought about it and I say this: I'm not perfect or better than anybody; but at the end of the day, I worked hard for my goals, I never slipped and I kept believing.  That's all I can do.  I wasn't in the streets, never did drugs and never got drunk.  I got picked on in school but I managed to finish and not give up.  So if I'm an intimidator, I'm a very good one

Not trying to be a pastor, but I need for my people to do better and stop this nit-picking intimidating haterness and actually do something for yourself.